A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows thereUknown
Aloha, beautiful soulflower… So, you are ready to elicit change within your life. Why else would you be reading this blog post? Can I start by saying you are already halfway there? You are taking action steps, your thoughts are churning, you are dreaming. Dreaming of a different life, dreaming of change, dreaming of what it would be like if you could confront your fears and face life head-on like a bull in a ring.
How to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone and Reach Your Goals Like a Boss
Imagine this for a moment. A cool autumn breeze lofts by your open window; bringing with it the scent of fallen leaves, and cool earth. A smell that is so familiar for you. You find yourself sinking into your plush sofa, reaching for a warm glass of tea, comforted by the sound of a crackling fire. Love wrapped in your arms whether it is the love of an animal or the love of a partner, there is love. Still, you dream…your heart desires more. Still, you are not content. Maybe you are dreading the workday ahead of you, and you long for a life of freedom, comfort, and bliss.
Maybe You Dream Of:
- A different home
- Life on the beach
- A fulling Career
- Financial Abundance
Whatever fulfillment may look like for you I am here to help you achieve it. The thing about comfort zones is no one ever wants to leave them because it is what’s familiar. I have to ask, Are you really that comfortable?
The Different Versions of You
I remember a while ago I went through a terrible breakup. It was almost as though a piece of myself had walked out the door with my ex. There was a hole where my heart once beat and there was no way of filling this void. Months before the breakup I knew the relationship had run its course. I wasn’t happy and on the days I felt happy it was as though he snatched the happiness right out from under me. We argued constantly and slowly but surely our love turned to hate. There was no respect or any boundaries on what we would say to each other. I couldn’t understand why I had taken the break up so bad, why did it feel like I still loved him?
Because I Was Used to The Idea of Him
I had grown accustomed to him coming home, I knew what time I would hear his footsteps at the door, I knew that night I wouldn’t have to sleep alone. Simply put he was company. A familiar face. I want to ask you to reflect on your life and ask yourself these three simple questions.
Can you do better?
When you know better; you do better.Dr. Maya Angelou
There is always room for growth. Whoever said the sky is the limit never gazed upon the stars. If you have something calling to you, and you dream of doing something different. If you have the ability and the talent; then why not go for it? The best part about this is you are either reading this on a phone, laptop, tablet, desktop. Which means you have an unlimited source of information and opportunity in your hands right now. If you do not know where to begin. Start looking up some form of inspiration. Learn how to do whatever it is you want to do, and most importantly practice patience. All good things will come to you with a lot of belief, a small amount of effort, and God on your side.
What’s the worst that could happen?
I mean, but did you die? lol, Seriously, If it isn’t something that will kill you, hurt you, or put you in the hospital you should definitely go for it as long as it is for the good of you and everyone involved.
What is a time you overcame something you never thought you could recover from?
This is something I want you to write down. It will be helpful once you experience a couple of bumps in the road to look back on this situation and realize how much strength you had.
There is beauty in not knowing
So often as human beings we want to plan every possible outcome. We have this insatiable need to control. I have to say that some of the most beautiful moments of my life came when I decided to release control. We can not control the circumstance by which something comes to us. We can dream of our ideal life. Make a step by step plan, but God, Universe, Creator is the only one that will always be in control of how this circumstance is brought to us.
In 2015 I took a chance on love
I stepped out of my comfort zone. I worked at a pet store as a cashier. One day I stood at the register gazing out the window watching the fat white flakes of snow dance to the ground. I hated it.
On a yellow pad of sketch paper, I wrote these words. “My heart longs for the beach and the sun. Sand kicking up under my feet, salty skin, and a heart so full of love and laughter that I nearly burst”.
In 2015 a man I once loved stumbled back into my life. Man oh man did I love him. It was one of those “meant to be things for sure”. Anyway, he had moved from Ohio to Florida something we had talked about during our first whirlwind of a romance. We both exclaimed how awesome it would be to be beach bums. Sleep under the stars and rise with the sun. Dance under the full moon and make love when it’s new. I mean this guy is the complete package, and with some convincing he got me to load up my 1997 midnight blue jeep wrangler and move to Florida.
This would involve
Me leaving my friends, my family, oh my gosh my dear sisters. I had finally purchased my own apartment. I was accomplished paying my own bills, working a full-time job, and finally starting to enjoy living alone, and he wanted me to leave it all behind. All that I had worked so hard for. That was scary, but I did it! It was the best decision of my entire life. I now have a beautiful son because of it (Read about my journey to motherhood here). I feel so incredibly blessed, and all of this happened because I stepped wayyy outside of my comfort zone. It was terrifying, it was impulsive, it was freeing. The day I decided to load my things and my husky into that jeep was the day I gained my smile and I haven’t lost it yet.
How to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone and Reach Your Goals Like a Boss
Step 1. Dream
Is a life without dreams even worth living? God gave us this beautiful gift. Let’s start to use it. All of my life I have been a big daydreamer. I thought this was a bad thing. I am slowly beginning to realize that this too is a gift.
Step 2. Set Unshakable Standards
You will always accept the life you think you deserve.
Step 3. Take Action
If you are sitting around waiting for good things to fall into your lap without action chances are you will be waiting a long time. Take small actions toward your goals daily. If you are writing a book start by writing the first paragraph and before you know it you will have an entire novel written. Remember small attainable actions are the steps to success. Just be sure to be disciplined enough to set goals and achieve them. You need to take action every single day.
Step 4. Practice the Art of Allowing
Blessings come to us in the most mysterious magical serendipitous ways. Allow God to work in your life release the need to control. Surrender to the flow of life, and let what will happen, happen. I promise you may not understand why things are difficult now, but there is a reason. There is a reason for everything. Either a lesson or a blessing.
Step 5. Grow
You may not be the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, hell maybe even a week ago and that is okay. Life is about growth and change; it is how we deal with the change that makes us who we are. Just remember never stay in a situation long after it has served its purpose. When it is time to move on let go and move on you will be a better person because of it.
I leave you with this…
Allow love to flow through your life. If it scares you, you should do it. If it made you even more afraid you should do it again. Belief in yourself is more valuable than believing in anyone else. Follow your heart and fill your life with all the beautiful things. Sending so much love your way, and as always Honor the Goddess within.